Before she performs online, she thinks about her new partners, chooses what to wear, and sets the mood. This process builds longing, anticipation, and desire, along with the excitement of new connections. She does not want to settle for only responsive desire, and she worries that spontaneous desire might fade with marriage, children, living together, or monogamy.
Women who are drawn to pornography are not mainly motivated by the material itself or by sex. There is also too much focus on the brief dopamine rush it brings. Instead, they are often seeking a spontaneous spark that gives them a sense of freedom.