Intimate Terrorism

The Making of a People

The Hunt for Intimacy

The Doctor continues:

"Studies of individuals addicted to pornography indicate that their motivation is not the pornography itself, nor is it primarily about sex. Rather, it concerns the pursuit of a temporary dopamine increase in the brain. Consequently, such individuals seek intense stimulation to achieve this dopamine surge, aiming to experience a sense of vitality and normalcy."

While both community and the dopamine response are essential, the Doctor, as an observer, overlooks the notion that, in contemporary society, normality often equates to a disconnection from one's authentic self. Additionally, the significance of physical contact in boxing is not fully addressed.

The young man’s selection of boxing is not coincidental. In seeking to restore intimacy, he faced a choice. Within a society that normalizes violence, the decision was not whether to experience pain, but rather which form of pain to endure: the pain of self-suppression or that of physical conflict. A third alternative, however, was not explored.

The third option involves an objective analysis of the young man’s behavior, free from unwarranted value judgments regarding pornography. In a society that prioritizes visual experience, viewing pornography does not inherently constitute compulsive behavior, despite potential negative consequences. Rather, engaging with pornography can be understood as establishing a psychological intimacy, rather than a physical or sexual relationship.

From this perspective, boxing also represents a form of touch comparable to 'intimate terrorism,' encompassing the intense experience of enduring and surviving physical punishment.